So how do you find a hot Latin American bride?
I’ve been looking for a foreign bride myself for around three years now. I’ve travelled around the globe, met quite a number of women, and had some incredible adventures along the way.
In this article I’ll show you the process and recommended steps you need to work through in order to find a Latin American bride.
Choose Your Country
First things first, do you want a Colombian bride, a Brazilian bride or just a Latin American bride? And what about Central America and the Caribbean? Do you also like Caribbean and Dominican women?
It’s a good idea to be clear in your mind which country’s women you like the most!
Of course Latin America isn’t even your only choice. Both Russian and Asian women are other options.
If you want to check out all the options open to you, then this free foreign bride ideas tool might help you research which country has the best women for you.
Online or Offline Dating?
Are you living in South America? Congratulations, you’ll find it much easier to meet Latin women!
If you’re already living in the Caribbean or Central or South America, then you probably don’t need my advice when it comes to meeting women.
Online dating is alright, but it’s really no substitute for personal introductions. So if you’re already in the area, seek out those friends of friends!
And if you’re new in town, start building your social networks as a way of meeting reliable and honest single women.
Online Dating or Introduction Agency?
Online dating can be a great way to meet Latin women. However, they can be dangerous.
Where so many men go wrong is that they are totally naive about dating sites and the quality of the women on these sites.
Most dating sites don’t charge female members anything to join. Furthermore, men only pay around $20 a month to use the site.
For that level of income a site generates, you have to have your head in the clouds if you think that kind of money allows the site to screen all the members and weed out 100% of scammers.
And if you trust anyone you’ve just met through a free dating site, well you’re an idiot quite frankly.
While there are decent women online, they take a lot of finding.
I’ve been approached by quite a number of scammers on foreign dating sites. The best way to avoid them is to use an introduction agency. These agencies cost 10-20 times as much as an annual dating site subscription would cost, but they can actually work out cheaper in the long run.
By the way, if you’ve got any spare time at this stage, then I would strongly recommend you read a lot of books about your preferred Latin country, and try to learn a little bit of Spanish (or Portugese).
Both reading and language learning will benefit you in the future – not least because you’ll be able to impress the pants off Latin American women you later meet (sometimes literally!).
Shortlist Some Latin Women
Whether you use an introduction agency or a dating site, your aim is to shortlist 3-4 women whom you think are possible marriage material.
My top tip here is to make sure you shortlist women who in a town or city you want to visit!
Don’t shortlist one woman from Rio, and another one from Brasilia!
If you’re using a dating site like Latin American Cupid, you can set the location that you’re interested in through the My Matches facility. Then make sure you delete emails and interests from any women who don’t live in this location. This is a ruthless policy, but it is extremely effective and it has worked for me on several occasions.
Handling Your Shortlisted Women
If you’re doing your online dating from the USA or Canada or somewhere else, that does of course mean you can’t physically meet the women you’re talking to. I’d strongly recommend that you don’t fall in love with anyone at this stage. By all means have a favourite girl or two – I’ve always had a strong favourite when I’ve been drawing up my own shortlist.
Also make sure you don’t get into the business of sending gifts or money to women you haven’t met. Save gifts for when you eventually meet them in person. I’m speaking from experience here when I say that gift giving men attract gold digger women.
Also make sure you don’t make false and empty promises to any women you chat to either. Don’t promise that you’ll get engaged/married/whatever on your first visit. And don’t tell them you’re going to visit them one day if you have no intention of doing so. Women have more urgency to find a partner than we guys do, so it’s not fair to waste their time.
Also bear in mind that women find it quite easy to find out you’re talking to several women. If they ask it’s better to be open that you want to make up your mind once you meet them in person. Don’t talk to one woman about another woman though. I blew one relationship because of this.
Visiting Latin Women
Your ultimate aim is to visit your list of shortlisted women. Plan to stay in your chosen country for at least two weeks. If you can spare the time away, it’s better to stay for longer than this. In fact I’m currently making plans to spend two whole years away from my country of origin.
If you’re interested in living overseas for an extended period of time, be sure to drop by the Happier Abroad website and forum.
As far as timing goes, it has been my experience that you need to visit women 2-3 months after you first make contact with them. Too soon and you’ve not had chance to weed out the gold diggers, scammers or lazy women. But leave it too long, and the women you’ve been chatting to will really begin to think that you’re just not serious about them.
While you’re abroad, you should arrange a short first date. A meal in a local restaurant is ideal for this. It’s best not to try anything on with a woman on the first date. Be a gentleman!
You need to carefully observe your date. If she touches you or starts feeding you then these are really good signs that she genuinely likes her. Of course if you’re experienced with women then you’ll know the other little signs to look for.
Many Latin women will make the first move. It usually depends on their age and previous relationship history.
The Cooling Off Period
Coming home from visiting foreign women can be a real anti-climax. If you’ve met the girl of your dreams, then it’s a very good idea to return home and do some thinking.
If after 2-3 months you feel the same way about her, then arrange to visit her again.
If the trip ended in catastrophe (and trust me – I’ve been here!), then return home and regroup. It’s often a good idea to take a break for a few months – especially if a relationship ended badly. For this reason I don’t tend to make more than three women-meeting trips a year overseas, as it’s too stressful on the emotions.
Latin women are often desperate to get married, and as a Western guy you’re a huge catch (particularly if you’re American)! So don’t be swayed too much by what they tell you. If the relationship doesn’t feel right, then it isn’t right. And if you have to ask yourself whether you love somebody, you probably don’t.
Engagement and Marriage
If you’ve found The One, then it’s a question of getting engaged or getting married.
If you get engaged then you can normally get your prospective bride over to your country on a fiancé visa. The rules depend on which country you’re living in. Generally speaking a fiancé visa is valid for 6 months.
The fiancé visa is a good opportunity to get your bride over on your home territory. Then you can very easily determine if she’s good wife material. Many foreign women have agendas, and only the most determined can put up a false facade for six months or more.
After that comes marriage. Whether you get married in her country or yours is up to you. Often couples get married in both countries – this pleases both families. Be wary of women who only want to get married in your country – she could be after your wealth.
I guess I don’t need to tell you that you need to make sure you cover yourself in the event of a divorce. I’d strongly recommend a prenup, and if you have a lot of assets it can be a good idea to avoid getting married in your own country (at least for the first year or so of being a couple). Thousands of men have been left destitute by their new foreign brides – don’t be another sorry statistic.
So that’s the process I’ve been using in my search for a foreign bride of my own. It seems to work pretty well, although I will point out that it could take you a lot longer to find a Latin bride than you initially thought it would.
If you’ve got any more tips about finding a Latin American bride, then leave your comments below.